It's not candy and roses
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| Candle light dinner |
It's only a month until Valentine's Day, and I'm searching for hotel rooms, in the hopes of a little time away with J.
The more I think about that, the more it makes me laugh. See, we aren't that couple. There are no candle lit dinners, no champagne, no sunset beaches. I'm not that girl- the idea of that makes me cringe. We're all-you-can-eat seats at a Rangers game, scary movie, gun range kind of people.
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| My idea of a great date |
The Language of Love?
They say there are five languages of love (I think?) - ours is not roses and romantic dates.
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| Love |
Sure, everyone wants spice in their marriage, but as someone who moved from a short-lived spicy but miserable marriage, to a long-term, stable, happy one, I know that spice isn't what keeps love alive, and a marriage strong.
Love, and marriage
Love and marriage require work and sacrifice. The real language of love is giving if yourself.
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| Taking care of six kids so I can relax? That's romantic! |
My husband doesn't say he loves me by buying me roses (which I see as a waste of money. Besides, I prefer gerbera daisies, and would much rather have Rangers' tickets!) - he says he loves me by letting me sleep late on his days off, while he gets up with the kids. He says it by not just letting, but encouraging, me to go out with my friends while he keeps the kids, whether for an hour, or a weekend. He says he loves me by letting me chase dreams, no matter how crazy, or how often they change. He shows me he loves me in little ways, every single day.
And the end result? After a decade, I'm even more attracted to him than I was when we met. I still find him irresistible. I'm content, I'm happy every day, and that brings plenty of spice on it's own
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| Spice between the sheets |
Real Romance
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| Long term romance |
That's what romance is, though. It's long lasting. It's daily. It's constant. It's not something that
happens on Valentine's and anniversaries - its every moment. It's lightening each others loads. It's respect, support, encouragement.
And it's a helluva lot better than candlelight and roses.
What does your spouse do to romance you on a daily basis? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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